“Change One Thing And Everything Changes”

Just one thing. Change your Self-relationship to one of Self-advocacy, and you become aware, good, strong, and internally safe. Achieving emotional balance and well-being is within the power of your Self-relationship. This truth underlies my work as a psychotherapist, as well as my theoretical model, Selfsight®.

You have the power to change, to become who you want to be, to become the best version of your Self. All you need is know-how and determination. Simply put, know-how is emotional competence, which provides healthy supplies to your core emotional needs for empathy, esteem, and empowerment.  

When you supply your emotional needs with emotional competence, you become emotionally balanced. Emotional balance is the foundation to emotional well-being, or what I call Everyday Happiness. Practicing enough emotional competence creates an intentional Self-relationship in which you consistently make informed choices that promote and protect your emotional well-being. This is Everyday Happiness. It’s this simple. 

Emotional Competence = Emotional Balance = Emotional Well-Being = Everyday Happiness

I include principles and skills from Selfsight in my eclectic approach to therapy as part of helping you develop insight and an understanding of what’s working and not working, helpful or unhelpful. This process helps us know where to look for solutions. Be hopeful. There is a solution to every problem when you become emotionally competent. You become a problem solver. 

Emotional Competence Connects—It connects you to your Self and to others because it is built on truth, calm, and empathy. These three things have the power to turn emotional distress/reactivity into calm comfort. Nothing good ever happens in a reactive emotional state.  Emotional competence includes anything you can think or do that strengthens your Self and sense of Self as aware, good, and strong. Emotional competence promotes, protects, and preserves your sense of internal emotional safety, well-being, and dignity. Developing more emotional competence is true Self-help. My job is to help you learn how to help your Self.

In my work, emotional competence is based on honoring and integrating Selfsight’s Relational Rights and consistently practicing Selfsight’s 10 Self-Strengthening Choices. Each choice contains skills, such as learning about boundaries or reframing your story, which provide real-life applications that promote emotional balance. I help my clients integrate these transformative skills into a way of meeting life, grounded and anchored in an intentional awareness of their thoughts, body, and feelings. “Glued in your own shoes!”  This internal awareness serves as a guide to being your true Self and to advocating for your Self. 

Being your Self while helping your Self.